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FamilyMinistry Sphere 3 » Building Family ValuesThroughout the New Testament, the church is referred to as God’s family. The question is, just how much are our congregations like the early church family? What do we lack? How can we grow to become more like Christ to each other and to the world? Family values cannot simply be voted into the life of a church. They are taught and hopefully they are caught. Family values are best understood when seen. If we live like Christ, people may listen to our words as well—words in a sermon or Sunday School class, or words on a website.
Growing DeeperUnderstanding Family Values
Family to FamilyBy WP Campbell The debate about whether same-sex attraction is a result of nature (pre-birth factors) or nurture (our environment) is not as complicated as we make it out to be. Mainstream scientists and psychologists who do not have an axe to grind generally admit that it is probably caused by a combination of both, at least to some extent. Where then, do people’s family of origin fit in? Many would suggest it is one of the biggest factors on the nurture side of the coin. And this is where the conversation becomes quite complex. And this is also where we as Christians are called by God to move the conversation back to the sublime and simple. You and I, the average church members, leaders, and pastors, are not called to “fix” people, nor are many of us clinical therapists. We do not need to delve into issues related to other people’s families of origin to help them experience God’s family today. By God’s grace, we can demonstrate the healing virtues of Jesus. We are God’s family! When God sends us people who have been broken through a bad marriage, through a drug addiction, or through a wasting disease, our first job is to love them and to show them that God does too. Everyone needs a family. If people also need a medical doctor or a psychiatrist, we can support them in the journey. But they will never cease to need the support of God’s family. The Ministry of Hospitality: Jesus reached into the hearts of the religious leaders of his day with the Story of the Good Samaritan. Read the story again. What does it say to us today (Luke 10:25-37)? I believe it tells us that a Christlike response to homosexuals is not to hold a huge sign on the street corner that declares that all gays will go to hell. Nor does it allow us to excuse ourselves from this particular ministry because we are too busy with “other godly priorities” as we rush along the road to Jericho. Rather, it calls us to show kindness and hospitality to all people that we might soon gain their ear and tell them about the road to heaven. It recognizes that people need Jesus before they can change. This welcoming spirit is true hospitality. We are called to bandage wounds and to expect nothing in return. It can be insightful to make a list of things our churches might do to show hospitality to people who experience sexual and relational brokenness. Family to Family: One of the best places for healing for those whose families of origin were somehow lacking is within the healthy families of a local church. In this way we “show” rather than “tell” what the grace of God can do. In this way also, people can “see” rather than merely “hear” through a sermon what good things the Lord has in store for them. One pastor told me that he believes the greatest ministry we can have to people who are conflicted sexually is to get them around the dinner tables in our homes. Why? Because it was in their own homes that many of them were wounded, and the home is where healing can truly begin.
Sermon IdeasBy WP Campbell For several years, I’ve been observing successful ministries in congregations that are impacting the lives of people with homosexual attractions. One of the essential aspects of these ministries is the pastor’s sermons. Below is what I’ve learned from their examples and from my own experiences. First, Some General Considerations
Having a Specialist Tackle the Topic The easy way to handle this topic from the pulpit is to avoid it altogether. The second most easy way to deal with it is to hand it off to a guest preacher who has personally overcome homosexuality and who now has a spouse and children and who can be gone on Monday morning to everyone’s relief. But easiest isn’t always best. I recommend bringing in the specialist to guide your leaders to build ministry, and perhaps also to offer in-depth teaching for the congregation through seminars and other formats. If the specialist is to bring a message from the pulpit, however, it is important that such a message be placed like a diamond in the safe and secure setting already established by in-house sermons that build family values. The pastor cannot shrink from the task of preaching the whole council of God for the people of God. It is what happens Sunday after Sunday that will most greatly impact the church members from Monday to Friday. Sermon Samples The following links bring you samples of sermons preached on homosexuality and sexuality in general. We plan to add many more over the coming years, and invite you to send us your own recommended links and actual sermons, whether in electronic text or downloadable audio files. We reserve the right to review and post the sermons that we believe to be fitting with this ministry focus. Thank you!
Sermon Series Ideas One doesn’t necessarily need to mention words like “homosexuality,” or “adultery” from the pulpit to create a worship environment that fosters family values in the hearts of God’s people. When biblical family values are encouraged in sermons and when the leaders of a church are embracing such values for themselves, the whole church is practically destined to begin living these values over time. Upon such values, solid ministry is built. Perhaps the following series ideas will stimulate your thinking. Send us your ideas as well. What series has worked well in your congregation?
Insights from Other ChurchesThis website is new, and this is where you come in! Send us stories and insights related to family values in the life of your church. We will review them for publication on this site. Information will remain anonymous if you present it as such or state that as your preference. Come back to this site soon to learn new ideas from other congregations! Contact Us »
Church Family Values ResourcesThere are a wealth of resources for families through ministries like Focus on the Family and Family Life. The resources designed to help local congregations learn to live according to Christlike family values, however, are not as easy to target. If you have suggestions to improve this list, please contact us. Resources Specific to Building Church Family Values and Homosexuality Johnson, Kristin. “The Family of God and Healing Same-Sex Attractions.” Theology Matters: A Publication of Presbyterians for Faith, Family, and Ministry. Volume 14, No. 3, May/June 2008. Link » “Becoming a Listening, Healing Community.” OneByOne Pastoral Care Guide. Orlando, FL: OneByOne, Inc, 1999. See also Additional Resources » General Resources on Building Church Family Values Bonnhoeffer, Dietrick. Life Together. NY: Harper and Row, 1954. Diefenderfer, Richard R, Jr. Creating Christian Communities. Crowley, TX: CreatingChristianCommunities.com Publishing, 2003. Eims, Leroy. The Lost Art of Disciple Making. Colorado Springs, CO: Zondervan, 1978. Evans, Louis. Covenant to Care. Wheaton, IL: Scripture Press, 1982. Getz, Gene A. One Another Series. Hanson, Paul D. The People Called: The Growth of Community in the Bible. San Francisco, Calif.: Harper & Row, 1986. Hellerman, Joseph H. When the Church Was a Family: Recapturing Jesus' Vision for Authentic Christian Community. Nashville, TN: B & H Publishing Group, 2009. Hestenes, Roberta. Turning Committees into Communities. Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 1991. Martin, Glen, and Gary McIntosh. Creating Community: Deeper Fellowship through Small Group Ministry. Nashville: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 1997. Nouwen, Henri J. M. Reaching Out -- The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life. NY: Doubleday & Co., 1975. Palmer, Parker. A Place Called Community. Philadelphia: Pendle Hill, 1977. Peck, Scott. Different Drum. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1987. Shadel, Doug; & Thatcher, Bill. The Power of Acceptance - Building meaningful relationships in a judgmental world. Van Nuys CA: New Castle Publishing, 1997. Shaffer, Carolyn R; & Anundsen, Kristin. Creating Community Anywhere. New York: Putman book, 1993. Trueblood, Elton D. The Company of the Committed. NY: Harper & Row, 1961. Trueblood, Elton D. The Encourager: Insights to Strengthen Christian Faith and Living. NY: Harper & Row, 1978. Trueblood, Elton D. The Incendiary Fellowship. NY: Harper & Row, 1967. Google Books For a wealth of free reading, we recommend logging onto Google Books, and doing a search on “Church as Family.”
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